Feeling helpless when it revolves around you was the point of my last entry. Today, my perspective comes from watching things happen to other people and there's nothing you can do to change it or keep it from happening. You try to be supportive, you look for the opportunity to assist or help, but, we have to watch the situation unfold; waiting to determine how we will respond. Feeling helpless seems to be something we will have to contend with throughout our lives.
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Linda Baver
7/27/2013 04:31:48 am
I have been in this position myself. The only thing you can do at such a time is to be there for that person or persons and listen. Be there for them by calling on occasion in the following months and saying that you are just checking up on them. Don't ask how they are doing. You know how they are doing. Let them talk, and you can listen. If you can think of a way to help them, offer it. Don't ask them if there is anything you can do for them. They don't have a clue. The most important thing you can do for a person or persons at a time like this is to be there for them when they want to talk. And don't forget about them over the following months. People offer support initially and then drop out of sight. Make yourself available for many months to come. Even if you are hurting, they are hurting more. Just do what comes next. You will know what to do or say. Even if you are simply there with that person or persons in the same room, that is enough. You don't even have to exchange a single word.
Steven
7/27/2013 05:20:43 am
You make another excellent point. It is our tendency to provide excellent support during the short term. We all ride that emotional roller coaster and it may be weeks and / or months later when someone needs to talk or just have companionship. True friends are always there. Leave a Reply. |
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